Interview With Mistress Odette
Master Bernd started coming into the bookstore almost every day to order coffee and sit around and talk about philosophy and Europe and such, and He would order these books on BDSM. The books would come in and I would look at them and read them before I called Him to tell Him they had arrived. I had read The Story of O and seen Behind the Green Door; but to Me it was all just sexy and playful, it was still in the form of bedroom play; which Ihadn't had for a long time anyway because I was with this crazy guy and the sex was all very straight and boring, never satisfying. It took a long time for Me to realize that I was a smart, beautiful, sexy woman, but what I am today comes from the experiences I have had with both My ex-husbands and the tutelage of Master Bernd. Anyway, when Master Bernd would come to the store, We would sit and talk about the books and I would ask Him all sorts of questions over coffee. He would explain to Me, and I was interested, but since I was still married and trying very hard to be a good wife I didn't feel like I could do anything about it.
Every year at the
bookstore at Halloween I would throw a party at the bookstore; My birthday
is October 30th and I always felt like Halloween was a national celebration
of Odette's birthday. On Halloween you are allowed to express your alter
ego and allow your dark side out. It is really a range of imagination
that's what I tell the Mistresses that I train, if you can imagine it,
then it's a kink that's out there.
He really wooed Me the whole time bringing Me underwear and make-up and presents and He taught Me how to stop hiding Myself. I started wearing sexy clothes; He took Me shopping, He was helping Me build My self-esteem. So that when I had the Halloween party a year later; the last year that I owned the bookstore; men came out of the woodwork; brought Me presents of champagne and stockings "all kinds of sexy things. I had always thought of Myself as Rapunzel; it was My nick online when I first signed on because I was trapped in this bad situation with My second husband, and just before I left him I cut My long hair; and it liberated Me. It was like I climbed down My hair and left. The party was the beginning of a whole new understanding of Myself after I left My husband I called Master Bernd and told Him that I wanted to be His slave and learn about BDSM firsthand.
What is Your basic philosophy about D/s and how do You implement this with Your submissives?
My philosophies stem from observation of human sexuality. I practice B&D; not S&M. Each individual has a unique perspective and is going to express his/her sexuality in that unique way. I believe everyone is kinky. It's a normal part of sexuality. We develop our sexual identity from the ages of birth to six. All these things that happen to us, which we may not even remember later on, we focus on; they become fetishes; they become powerful cues for us. The way we're touched, where we're touched, when we're touched, our parents attitudes towards their own sexuality and their bodies, all these things influence our own attitudes. I was taught that the body is a beautiful thing.
When I work with My submissives I have to educate them, to teach them even if they have been into the scene for a long time. What I have come to discover is that regardless of the kink or the sexual orientation, the most important thing is for the submissive to learn how to communicate his/her sexual needs and desires effectively. They need to be touched. So many of My submissives, it's so sad, they are surrounded by family and still so lonely, desperately lonely because they are not being held or talked to the way they need to be, It's like therapy. The sexual is merely a spin-off of the psychological; sexuality is a psychological phenomenon.
As a Professional
Dominatrix; how do You go about taking on clients and preparing them for
How do You combine Your Dominant side with Your sexuality?
I am not much of a public player, I work in private with My clients, and in My relationships too. I don't flaunt My performances or My sexuality in public. Now, as I told Gazelle at the last Munch, there is a certain amount of sexuality that I just canít help, it oozes out of Me (ed: I have to second that). I've always been that way; it's a natural part of Me. I think we are on the way back to a time when there was Goddess worship; when men are worshipping femininity through women. I do feel like a Goddess when I put on My costume whether in public; though that is very rare; or for the submissives with whom I work. We are a symbol of femininity; they don't even see us as who we are; rather we are this Goddess to be adored and worshipped. I wouldnít want to be constantly on a pedestal all the timeÖbut within the context of what I do; I think it's a wonderful thing for the men I am with as well as Myself.
What kinds of scenes do You prefer to enact with Your clients?
I like all kinds of scenes. I like to play nurse, teacher, mommy, wife, wicked dominatrix, and kidnapper. I have played out all kinds of stories, it's fun. It's a story, a fantasy. Role-playing is used a great deal in therapy to help patients learn how to view certain sides of themselves. I use it to help people set boundaries and yet fulfill their own needs. When My client arrives for his or her session, I have already pretty much prepared in advance, have the props and scenario ready. We sit down and go over the contract again, and talk about things until I feel a level of readiness.
It's a little different when I work with couples. I have to have separate interviews and, in the beginning, separate scenes with them to bring out their individual needs in order to prepare them to share this with their partners. I like to work with Master Bernd, it's a lot more actual therapy in the beginning where we sit in the living room and just talk; to help them discover their dominant and submissive sides - teach them techniques; go over contracts and safe words. It's important to eliminate the guilt factor and teach them how to be creative and put the fun back in the bedroom in a loving way.
You charge a
fee for what You do; how do You equate this to Your professionalism?
If I gave You a magic wand, and I asked You to make the scene in Orlando better, what would You do?
I would wave My magic wand and hope that people would become more honest about their sexuality and about human sexuality in general. It's so weird how people walk around and pretend that they're not sexual beings; that it's not part of their nature. It's like saying, "no, no I don't have a left arm". Even in the scene itself; BDSM is about sexual expression, not necessarily sexual intercourse, but still, it is sexual and emotional. It's a release on physical and emotional levels. I would wave th e wand and hope that peoplee engaged to Master Bernd.
When did You discover that You were a Dominant and how did You get into the scene?
I have always known I was sexually dominant, was sexually aware at a young age. My mother was very much into women's lib in the 1970's so I was brought up to believe in a strong female personality. It's funny, until recently I never saw Myself as petite or feminine because I have a very strong, intense personality and I keep forgetting that I am only five-foot-two, curvy and soft. I was a tomboy growing up, it was just Me and My brothe; and I was always the boss. I have always been a leader; I'm an organizer. In My personal relationships I found I got more out of them if I was in control.
I was married for ten years to a man and I was basically the mommy or dominant in the relationship; but I didn't know the terms or ritual of it. If I had known, I would probably still be married to him. But after ten years of this undefined relationship where I was making all the decisions but not getting any of the benefits, I left the marriage. It was unfulfilling. Then I made a big mistake and went in the opposite direction. I felt what I needed was a man who was always in control, and, after six-and-a-half years My second husband tried to kill Me.
WOW! What happened?
He was schizophrenic. He was really good at hiding his schizophrenia as so many of them are; the little strange things they do are attributed to stress or being tired. What happens with schizophrenics is that they can hide their disease up to a point, then they get really stressed out and they snap. I owned My own bookstore, and when it closed, within three weeks he freaked. It was progressive; he started having auditory and visual hallucinations and, to make a long story short; he locked Me in a room and interrogated Me military style for many days, I only had water to drink. I kept passing in and out of consciousness, I kept talking to him though, and finally convinced him that he had to go to the hospital. This was after being physically abused including anal rape, and in the end the police had to use pepper spray and forcibly subdue him to get him to the hospital. Fortunately, I have a very healthy attitude towards sex and so the experience didn't permanently damage Me.
How did You meet Master Bernd?
At one point I moved
My bookstore from one location to another within the greater Orlando area.
When I did that I decided that I wanted neon for the window signs. At
the time I was organizing a series of displays for local artists in My
shop and one of the artists recommended His work to Me. So I hired Master
Bernd to produce the window signs for Me sight unseen. One day I had taken
My bookstore manager to lunch for his birthday, and unbeknownst to Me,
Master Bernd chose that day to just pop in and meet Me. One of the clerks
told Him which restaurant I was in, and I was just sitting there when
I heard this deep voice (editor's note: Makes Schwartzenegger sound like
a girl, almost) behind Me say My name. I turned around and looked at would
just be more accepting and tolerant of all the different facets of human
nature. It's an amazing range of what turns us on!