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We don't profess to knowing everything in this lifestyle. BDSM (Bondage & Discipline - Dominance / submission - Sado / masochism) is a continual search within each and every one of us. Use these links as a start to your own journey. If you only learn one thing about yourself from each site, you will be better for it.

D/s and BDSM Safety Essays and Links

D/s and BDSM Resources
General Lifestyle Resources [top]

Beginning BDSM Lifestylers
Offers a lot of good, straight forward, common sense advice for those new to the lifestyle. Included is The Players Handbook, Essays and Thoughts on WIITWD and links.

D/s Help and Info Pack - Part of Wizdomme
Informational page including general info on bdsm, abbreviation and acronyms, F.A.Q., book lists, newbie info, and gender roles in bdsm. Also includes sample slave contracts.

John Warren Discussion Log
John Warren is the author of The Loving Dominant, an author well respected in the BDSM community.

Different Loving Home Pages
This page is centered around the publication of the book "Different Loving". "Different Loving" is the first and only mainstream book to explore and demystify the worlds of BDSM, sexual power relationships, and fetishism. Drawing on extensive scholarly research and interviews with hundreds of consenting adults, "Different Loving" has been called "the Bible of D&S" and has been critically acclaimed as a groundbreaking study into who we are, what we do, and why we do it.
DOMINA - A new novel by Gloria Brame - Discussion Log

KAP - Kink Aware Professionals
The resource for people who are seeking psychotherapeutic, medical, dental, complementary healing, legal, financial, and computer professionals who are informed about the diversity of consensual, adult sexuality.

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Checklist
This checklist should be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one person's Dom and Sub interests may be very different.

The Deviant's Dictionary
The Deviants Dictionary, a project that aims eventually to provide a comprehensive and interactive on-line encyclopaedic dictionary of BDSM-related terms, an 'encyclopervia' of the Net. The terms are simply arranged in alphabetical order and the entries include a brief definiton, supplemented by more detailed information, practical and safety discussions, links to other sites of interest and sometimes even illustrations, anecdotes and personal experiences. It's intended to be fun as well as informative and responsible.

The Bondage/Dominace/Sadism/Masochism Purity Test
This test rates your BDSM purity (and to some degree, your sexual purity (even better, it rates your kink purity)). The majority of these 100 questions assume that you have had an introduction to the world of bondage, dominance and sadomasochism.

Long Island Staylace Asso. - Corsetry Site
A large site sure ot please the corset enthusiast. Includes pictures, event schedules, pen-pal matching, chat, and more! Even include listings of where to find corsetted ladies in film and tv!

Fetish - Net UK
The aim of this site is to be the most comprehensive free fetish site in Britain, an ever expanding resource with contributions from its readers playing a major role.

Resources for the Dominant [top]

Kinky Information From Jack Rinella
The author of The Master's Manual shares information here, much of which is also in his books. The information is geared towards Leathermen, but in the beginning of the scene as we now know it they were the first share. Very informative.

Sir Magic's Monologue
SirMagic is an old friend of ours here. A lifestyle dominant shares his views on love, D/s and sex!

NewAgeQuest D/s Lifestyle

Resources for the submissive [top]

"Submissive Women Kvetch"

Jay Wiseman's site is full of essays and for the beginning submissive. His advice is deals in reality and common sense. The author of "SM 101" brings insight and clarity to what many are seeking in a style only Jay can do.

To Love, To Obey, To Serve: Diary of an Old Guard Slave
I want to highly recommend this book by V. M. Johnson. Vi is one of the best known women in the early BDSM movement. This lovely lady shares her experiences as an Old Guard slave candidly and openly with her readers. You can also see her in the video BDSM: Alternative Loving .

caryl's BDSM Page
This Page is intended to be a resource for People interested in or involved in the BDSM Lifestyle WorldWide.

Celebrate Male Submission

This site has been around for a long time and it is always a favorite place of mine to refer newbies to. Lots of good real life advice her and nice blend of erotica.

The Nine Degrees Of Submission
Diane Vera's definitions are classic in my opinion. Often we all lumped into one big group called "submissive". But in the scene you are sure to meet all types.

Submissive Women Speak

A page for submissive to have their voiced heard. Included are several articles about living the D/s lifestyle, a link to a camera set in a 24 hour D/s lifestyle home and a survey of people who live as slave and Master.

Latches - For the RT female submissive.
LATCHES is a non-profit support and discussion group for submissive women who have had some real-time, physical experience with D&S, and was founded in February 1997.

One thing becomes apparent when a woman starts surfing the web looking for adult sites: most of them are designed with men in mind. Even sites supposedly geared towards bi or lesbian women often turn out to be male-oriented. Lilith will point you in the right direction(s).

An Essay On Shaving
This question comes up so often, "How do I shave my pussy?"

Bondage Resources [top]

Bondage University
Bondage techniques, rope bondage tying tips, information, education, glossary of terms, articles, and advice about restraint play.

POWERotics Shibari - Japanese Rope Bondage
Take a tour on our site, we have a free education section provided.
Hans Meijer is a master and shares his techniques and skills in a powerful way.

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage
This is a book by Midori and Craig Moray. Mistress Midori has been a long time part of the educational scene. She shows her techniques through beautiful photography.

Jay Weisman's Erotic Bondage Handbook
If you have never been to one of Jay's Bondage Workshops, here is your chance to take advange of his techniques and style. This is a book really has it all and is one of the best out there.

BondageWeb & Fetish Central (It is all here)
Have I said lately, just how much I love Phil Carson's work? This site is the perfect blend of erotica and the BDSM lifestyle. Phil has a way of bringing out the beautiful and light side of bondage.

Ropers Knots Page
A site full of instructions on how to tie more knots than the average person even knew about! From the Adjustable to the Zeplin, it's the first step to learning to tie that perfect knot!

Yossi's Handcuff Collection
Yossi supplies not only a large list of sites to purchase handcuffs and replacement keys, but also displays restraint collections including handcuffs and much more.

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Spanking Resources
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Looking for the best spanking toys? We have them!

Shadow Lane
One of the oldest spanking groups out there.
Their parties are famous for the fun and red bottoms. They have personals and videos that are specifcally directed towards couples.


Sexuality Resources

Society for Human Sexuality

The Safer Sex Page
This page is (as you could have guessed) all about safer sex. Info and FAQs about the subject. How To info on condoms and such. Info on Lesbian safe sex. The site attemps to be informative without being preachy and casual without being silly. Does well on all counts.

The Dr. Susan Block Journal

Regional Resources

Fetish Scene
BDSM and fetish clubs, organizations, munches and parties. Listings for U.S. and Canada.

BDSM - Find the local scene near YOU!
This is a listing of places, organizations, clubs, etc, all with useful information and where you can find and get involved with your local scene. Listings include both pansexual and exclusive groups.

altBDSM - Scene Resources
A growing site with listings of clubs, groups and events. There is a great message board for all alternative lifestylers.

caryl's BDSM Pages - California Calender
This Page is intended to be a resource for People interested in or involved in the BDSM Lifestyle WorldWide. Includes a calendar of California events under "MEET PEOPLE" option.

The Paradox Group
A support group based in the midwest for any likeminded people in our lifestyle.

Boston Dungeon Society

Gotham: Piercing Online - SF and NYC

Society of Janus - San Francisco
The Society of Janus is a non-profit, San Francisco-based education/support organization which explores and teaches the art of safe, consensual, and non-exploitative power exchange. Twice-monthly meetings feature a variety of BDSM topics. Welcoming gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, trans-gendered and straight people alike.

TES (The Eulenspiegel Society) - NYC
TES is a not-for-profit organization which promotes sexual liberation for all adults. Especially for people who enjoy consensual SM.

Rose City Discussion Club
The Rose City Discussion Club is a non-profit organization that holds monthly meetings in Portland, welcoming all who are interested in BDSM/fetishes/scenes that are safe, sane, consensual, and fun.

The Triskeli Guild - Bellingham, WA
An inclusive BDSM group promoting an alternative lifestyle community. Encourages participation by all genders, races, and sexual preferences. Advocates safe, sane, consensual play AND safe sex. Covers all levels of experience from the curious to the very knowledged.

Monica's Loft
An elegant playspace in Chicago

Group With No Name - Austin, TX
The Group With No Name (aka "GWNN") is an Austin, Texas, non-commercial, not-for-profit, unincorporated social, support, and education group for adults interested in BDSM, body art, and related topics. It is pansexual and currently comprises of over 200 people, male and female, couples and singles.

Black Rose - Washington DC

Web Magazines [top]

An online magazine for those in the bdsm lifestyle, a sort of "Better, Homes and Dungeons" kind of thing. They are also asking all creative members in the bdsm community to submit their works to our site for publicaiton in upcoming editions.

Yoni Web Magazine
I have always loved this site. It is all about pussy power.

The Scarlet Letters - Journal of Femmerotica
Heather has a talent for bringing classy smut to you in an oh so nasty way. She was one of the first to openly tell us, hey women like erotica too!

Body Play Magazine
The Father of the Modern Primitives Movement Fakr Musakar's homepage and magazine. If you are into piercings and tattoos, you will love this site. I have seen Cleo DuBois and Fakir perform and he is truly amazing.

S&M News Home Page
Carter Stevens is one of the oldest names around the BDSM scene. This site is both informative and erotic.

Is the home of SKIN TWO the top name in latex and PVC fashion the world's leading fetish and SM magazine and organisers of the infamous annual Rubber Ball.

Secret Magazine
Fantasy, Fetish. S/M and Style

Enter the O Zone- <<O>> On Line Magazine

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